Today’s lesson is a special one. The opener. When you message some girl on a random personals site is the first thing she sees because… well… chances are your photo is probably too small. But more than that the first thing she sees is important is your opening line. If that opening line sucks then its game over. An example of a bad line is one I got today:
“So how do I go about meeting you?”
So I tweeted about what a bad line it is and said that I wanted to ask the guy “Really? This is your opening line?” And then I decided that I would just say that. Why not, right?! He responded:
“Lately, the normal openings don’t seem to be getting attention.”
I responded asking what was normal. His Response:
“Hello. How are you. You look pretty. Stuff like that. I barely get any response with stuff like that.”
So I responded to him – in efforts to help … really. You gotta come up with a better opening line! Here’s what you do if you should find yourself in this position… ever….. Look at the girl’s profile and find something that stands out. Don’t go to looks right away – girls hate that. Just because she has nice breasts or is wearing a slutty outfit doesn’t mean she wants some dude to be all up in her “looks” that’s likely just to draw in someone to their profile. Women like that get responses talking about how they look all the time.
So show you’re goal is to not be that guy and did your homework. Glance through the profile and find something. “I really loved the latest Batman movie but I felt like it didn’t hold a candle to the previous one. Saw you liked superhero movies so I thought I’d ask your thoughts. Best wishes, XXX” Or maybe “I saw that you have a photo taken at the Botanical Gardens – the Hershorn is one of my favorite museums in Washington have you had an opportunity to check it out?”
Think outside the box – but individualize it.
“I see you’re into movies. It doesn’t appear to be the same kind of movies, but similar. You live where there is a lot of history, as do I. I’m sure that alone gives us something to talk about. It may not be your normal conversation, but it’s our start.”
Hey… at least he tried right?
Best pick up line according to my mom’s friend LaDonna to a total stranger with all of his buddies around – TOTAL STRANGER when she was a little… er… um… intoxicated: “So um… how come you didn’t wake me up this morning before you left?” The dude kept saying “No no! That wasn’t me!” But it didn’t matter… the damage to his cred with his surrounding buddies was already done. HILARIOUS!