My co-blogger ThePrairieGay and I were discussing the value of cuddling this week. It seems a woman in Portland is offering her services as a professional cuddler to the general public.
“What I do is meant to do a similar thing that massage does but for the mind. It’s meant to really relax you and keep you centered and balanced and help you with your sense of self-worth,” Hess said.
“It’s not sexual”
Hess will cuddle and converse with you for a dollar a minute but service stops there.
Here is the interesting thing: Cuddling is actually really good for you. Nevermind the mental health benefits like making you feel happy and loved, it has actual health befits as well. Stop laughing. Most notably, it can reduce your blood pressure and reduce your cortisol levels. Cortisol is the stress hormone that makes your body freak out and not process foods and fats the correct way. If you have a big belly – chances are you’re either you have bad genetics, you’re a lazy bastard, or you work in a really really stressful job. That has actual impacts on your health. Cortisol and I know each other quite well, because when I’m on campaigns I have increased Cortisol levels and I gain weight. Increased belly fat makes your blood pressure go up and it is bad for your heart.
Another interesting effect is an increase of oxytocin. So, when we hug or kiss a loved one, oxytocin levels drive up. And according to the TED Talk (below) by Neuroeconomist Paul Zak, oxytocin could be “the moral molecule” which impacts the our ability to trust and feel empathy. And hey – it may even help make us better people.
My co-blogger and I have decided we need an app like Grindr but only for cuddling. Totally non-sexual. No hook-ups. Zero. Only clothed cuddling. And you don’t need to post photos of your sexy chest and your big thick junk – but descriptions of your big arms and heightened sense of compassion are likely a plus. Cuddlr would allow people to find others in their area who just need a hug and who want to curl up with someone.